My mother has been married to a white man, then a Ghanaian man, very dark-skinned, now a Jamaican man, of medium-skin. That can’t work.” I’ve been forced to ask myself the same question.Each time she marries, is she in a different status with her own blackness? Does my partner’s whiteness have any effect on my blackness?
As a black woman who’s with a white man, I can attest that nothing about the situation makes me feel more white.
I felt this most acutely in communities I’ve developed as a feminist.
I can almost see the disappointment radiating off people who find out that my partner is white.
When tennis star Serena Williams, a black woman and arguably the greatest athlete of our time, announced her engagement to Alexis Ohanian, the white co-founder and executive chairman of Reddit, she was hit by a furious backlash.
When the Grey’s Anatomy actor Jesse Williams, who is black, announced he was ending his 13-year relationship with his black wife Aryn Drake-Lee—and confirmed he was dating a white co-star—many jumped at the chance to question Williams’ dedication to social justice and, more specifically, black women.