For most of my teenage years, I didn’t need people and I didn’t need love.I’m literally petrified of making the same mistake again and of ever hurting another living soul again, I’ve been bad, I’ve made mistakes and I’ve taken advantage of people, now I’m trying, very hard not to be that person again and that includes treating women as people, with thoughts and feelings, hopes and fears and dreams.Before all that happened, I was an incredible jerk, an arrogant piece of shit with an intellect to match and zero attachments to anyone.I hated the idea of feelings and I shut them out and didn’t do friends (ironically this is when I received most attention from the females).Not every work created by a woman goes against this grain, obviously, since we’re all swimming in the same cultural soup. Check things off, or join a social site like Goodreads.
If you meet a woman, and you kind of like her, and you are looking for something to talk about, try asking her “ If you listen to her, and then go and read or watch that thing, she may or may not date you in the end, but you will get infinity coolness points because this behavior by men is sadly all too rare. This is as close as I ever get to the #1 SEEKRIT TRICK TO IMPRESS GIRLS kind of advice-giving. Some cool places to meet lots of nice people are: From how you describe yourself: Intense, intelligent, good at arguing, passionate about certain things that no one else likes, I am going to make an inference that you are very smart, quick-witted, and you like to be good at stuff and impress people.We grow up, we figure it out, we stop doing that stuff.It is unlikely, being as self-aware as you are now, that you will repeat those same mistakes.2) Seek out new activities and build on the interests and passions that you already have in a way that brings you into contact with more people. Some of those will be in your age group/dating pool or know someone who is.3) When you have the time and energy for it, try out online dating sites to practice dating. 4) Be really nice to yourself and take good care of yourself.w=300&h=200 300w, https://captainawkwarddotcom.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/jamesbond.jpg? w=600&h=400 600w, https://captainawkwarddotcom.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/jamesbond.jpg? w=150&h=100 150w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" / To elaborate: Step I. Works by men, with male protagonists, dominate popular culture. If you aren’t good at acquiring these objects you are a loser or a failure.We all grow up on stories and messages where men go out and do great deeds and they rescue and/or win the love of women. These are the messages you are swimming in, and they are affecting your life.It’s difficult in the uni dorm I’m in, considering most people I meet socially are either drunk (I’m stone cold sober) or do the whole ‘one night stand’ routine which to me is appalling.The few people I’ve really sparked with are all in relationships.But I think it’s a good idea to make a deliberate year-long project of it at this time in your life, when you are trying to figure out how to relate to women better. You’re going to read/watch/listen to something, why not make an effort to seek out women’s voices and perspectives?Reason #3: It will give you many different perspectives on women as diverse human beings and allow you to hang out with women and get to know them in your imagination.