My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.
At the same time, love does not mean that you should expect him to pick up the phone all the time or text you constantly.
(Playing therapist typically backfires for the reasons stated above.) Just remember to be a source of relief for him without directly trying to “help him” with the problem.
We don’t like chit-chat if it’s not towards a purpose, it’s just not how we’re wired.
If you start offering help or support to him, a lot of guys will actually resent it.
They won’t resent the gesture in it of itself, but they’ll resent the fact that they feel like they’re an object of pity … MORE: What to Do When He Says He Needs Space Instead, the best thing that you can do is admire and appreciate all of the good parts of him.
” As far as what you’re asking goes, it sounds to me like “young love.” I don’t mean that to be insulting – it is a nice thing.
But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.