Therapists agree that can take a minimum of one year and often longer. He has so much to figure out, work out and go through.
So it’s hard to heal until everything has been completed and the dust settles.
It’s understandable if it all seems a little daunting, but while there are issues it can also be extremely fulfilling.
Every single dad’s situation is different but if there’s a connection that you think is worth exploring, there are some things to consider before you make the decision to dive in.
Because this isn’t something to take lightly; there’s more than just you and he involved. If you value your sleep and aren’t a morning person, then hearing the TV on full blast or a toy train whistle or a crate of Lego hitting the floor at 6 a.m. They’re also playful and not worried about looking silly, be it cheesy jokes or knowing all the words to Taylor Swift‘s songs. With kids around (on his kid days), there won’t be any loud, crazy sex on the kitchen counter, or last-minute decisions to go away for a romantic weekend.
If he shares custody with his ex, he likely has every other weekend free. They are always in the picture and spontaneity becomes a thing of the past.
Maybe he reveals some of the struggles from his on-going divorce. This is true no matter who he is or how good it COULD BE. You are dating him with all his problems and warts.
Hopefully his ex is a reasonable, nice human being, they have a good (but not too good) relationship and co-parent well.
Nowadays, the chances of dating a man with children is pretty high.
Whether he’s separated, divorced or widowed, it all comes with unique challenges you may have never faced before.
If she’s difficult then this can cause problems later on.
They don’t have to be on the same page all the time (there’s a reason they’re no longer together) but if there’s strain between them it could be a strain on your relationship too.