In most cases the widower is not doing this intentionally and may not even realize that his words are leading you to believe that he wants you to do things that remind him of his deceased wife.Occasional lapses where the widower reminisces about his previous wife is acceptable and should be expected but if these episodes dominate the relationship, then it is important to realize that there is something unhealthy going on and seek counseling for both of you.I want to be sure that I am getting my needs met and that I’m not just a “rebound” for him. Dear Karen, One thing I know about widowers, followed by two things I know about men.
So when a woman survives her husband, she’s got a circle of friends from the neighborhood, from work, from her card game, from her book club, from her salsa classes. Regardless, he dictates the terms of the relationship based on HIS needs and schedule. To his credit, he’s taking things slow, to avoid diving into another serious relationship that he may end up regretting.This can cause quite a few problems in a new relationship that stem from a lack of communication.If you become involved in a relationship with a widower it is important to realize that you will often be called upon to help your partner work through his feelings about the loss of his wife, his relationship with you and anything else that might be troubling him.I made that need known last weekend in a calm, rational way.In your book, you said that if a guy isn’t seeing you more than once a week by the 3 months point, he probably isn’t interested in a serious relationship.Talk about rebound………he started to email me and call several times per day and because I am not the “rebound” girl, I slowed things down and poof!Relationship Advice Dating Advice for Widowers Widowers can be difficult partners because they are often not open about their feelings about their deceased wife.If the widower has children, this presents a unique set of problems that need to be dealt with in the relationship.In most cases it is the wife who has done most of the work in regards to raising the children and the widower may be insecure about his parenting abilities.Another tip for dating a widower is to be aware of the fact that you are a unique person and should not try to emulate his previous wife in an attempt to ease his pain.Trying to imitate his deceased wife will only lead to an unhealthy relationship for both of your.