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“Being safe online means employing a bit of purposeful anonymity,” Bartz says.
While you definitely should be honest on your dating ventures, don’t feel the need to give it all away all at once.
I don’t attribute this to an alignment of stars, to the mercy of the web gods and goddesses, or even to OKC’s algorithm, which supposedly uses questions such as “What’s worse, book burning or flag burning? Instead, I chalk up my positive online dating experiences -- which, with the exception of a brazen date who rudely shushed fellow theatergoers (referred to amongst my friends henceforth as “the shusher”), has been without horror stories -- to my careful evaluation of a potential match’s username before arranging a date.
Puns and hyper-masculine references were mostly no-gos.
Admittedly, my personal history of username selection isn’t without blemishes.Just as you take the time out to pick the perfect profile pic or the right words to represent you, taking the time to think of the perfect username is also essential.“Picking the right username is all about finding the right balance between fun, flirty and realistic.Adding words like ‘hottie’ or slang like ‘lil’ may turn fellow daters off and suggest to them that your intentions are not to find a serious relationship,” Bartz says.So what are some good online dating username tips to follow?According to a study published in the journal Evidence Based Medicine, researchers from the Queen Mary University of London went through 4,000 studies and analyzed 86, to discover the most effective approaches in online dating. I’ve swiped, I’ve messaged, I’ve boldly gone where no right-thinking relationship-seeker has gone before (to see a vampire movie on a first date), all in the name of finding love, or at least a cool guy to hang out with.To this end I’ve been more successful, or perhaps luckier, than my friends.As researchers found, playful screen names such as “Fun2bwith” are universally attractive.While men were more attracted to screen names that indicated some sort of physical attractiveness (i.e.On my fourth or fifth date arranged through OKCupid I met my current boyfriend, who happens to be the most communicative, fun, and kind person I’ve met, online or off.I’ll spare you the gush-fest; suffice it to say we’re an awesome match.